“I don’t understand why these things have to happen,” my son said to me, looking down at his baby brother.
I was staring out of a window that didn’t exist, seeking an escape from my hospital bed that I couldn’t find. His words, so “adult” for a five-year-old, barely even drew me back in.
“Because they just do,” I think I said, numbness paralyzing me. “Because…they do.”
“It’s so curious: one can resist tears and ‘behave’ very well in the hardest hours of grief. But then someone makes you a friendly sign behind a window, or one notices that a flower that was in bud only yesterday has suddenly blossomed, or a letter slips from a drawer…and everything collapses.”
To grieve…a journey with no logical beginning and, for some, no definite end. An up and down roller coaster ride alternating between hell and snapshots of heaven. A journey which challenges one’s very sanity…yet strengthens the determined warrior living within.
Undeniably, one of the toughest jobs a human being will ever have to endure.
Patience, love. That’s all you need. Patience for self, and patience for others who have no idea what you could possibly need on this path. Because the potholes and bumps on this road will not magically disappear, yet how you eventually manage to navigate them…will show the entire world, and your loved ones in Heaven, your utter, unstoppable, brilliance.
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So heart breaking but true. The bible says there is a reason for our grief, may the lord bless you with comfort today and always
Patience, yes… while it may be hard to have it (for yourself OR others!), it really does help so much…
I have witnessed this, where my friend who lost her son is so strong when I thought she would simply break down and then have her need my shoulder during a simple visit to the mall and she saw a pair of Pokemon socks. Beautifully done.
I have nominated for the Mystery Blogger Award if you would like to participate…
Yes, our triggers can be so random. They always tend to pop up when we least expect. Sometimes I can’t even put my finger on “what” triggered a memory. So much love to your friend…
And thank you for the nomination!